I have an idea: What if there was a game that we played with each other that focused on cheering other women on, and supported other women doing amazing things?
Remember when you were a kid and used to play tag in the grass all over the neighborhood? Do you recall how you wanted to get away and at the same time be tagged so that you could lead the chase? Getting tagged was sort of like being picked, sort of like being worthy, and a little like your chance to show everyone what you were made of as you zipped and dashed and pursued in your very own grand style.
And then, the fun part was tagging someone else, letting them have the chance to be the one who was “it.”
I’ve been thinking of a different kind of tag recently; a grown-up version with less chasing and more tagging. Also, more chances to be “it.”
Sometimes we just forget to notice how amazing other women are, but why can’t we change that?
Let’s strip away the pressure to be perfect and cast aside the need to impress and let’s play tag again, but now, let’s play with purpose.
Instead of grassy fields, move the game into the workplace, or home, or at the gym or grocery store. Let’s tag other women with our interest and support, let’s hand off joy and notice how amazing each other really is, not just because this kind of support boomerangs back, but because it is the best kind of gracious way to live. I like to imagine a world where we run after each other with grace and help others to blossom with their innate potential.
Do you want to play this game? Here’s how:
Be curious about others.
Ask questions, hear stories, be in awe. Everyone has something to share, sometimes they are just waiting to be asked. Be prepared to be floored by what strength has been shown, what wisdom has been gained, and what lessons have been learned. There is not one person on this planet who doesn’t have a bit of something that you can benefit from. Why not choose to absorb some new insight?
Assume everyone wants to be appreciated.
Even if they are only doing what they were supposed to do anyway. Saying thank you is a way of saying, “I noticed you did that, you helped me, I am grateful.” Grateful people are magnets, they are warm and comfortable to be around, and it only takes a few words to show how thankful you are.
Be amazed at the gifts of others.
Aren’t we so glad that we aren’t all good at the same thing? How boring would that be? Instead, there are women who are innately gifted at cooking, leading business meetings, welcoming people into their homes, singing, or organizing…you get my drift. Find YOUR gifts and celebrate others, and ask them to help you do something they are good at and you are not, then return the favor.
Maybe you see someone doing a thing they have never tried before, maybe they bobble and stumble a bit, but woah, at least they are trying. They deserve a boost, and your encouraging word will mean the world to them. On the other hand, you may see someone who is always good at some thing and is doing it well yet again. Well, she never gets tired of having someone tell her she is great. Wouldn’t you just love to be known for loving to see people doing their best?
Joy is contagious, and it is awful hard to complain when a joyful person is around. When you approach people with joy (a smile, warmth, acceptance) they respond by seeing things in a positive way. Feel good about others, and they feel good, oh, and so do you!
Don’t you want to play this game? The benefits are intangible but lasting. It only takes your decision to live with intentionality. Begin by knowing that you have a special ability to support and empower other women. And you grow by seeing the lives you touch and letting others touch your life. It is the best way of being a whole, happy, appreciative, and joyful person.
Tag, you’re it.