Nearly 12 percent of married couples sleep separately. My husband and I were one of them. Let’s fix that! Sleep soundly with your partner using these simple tips (and an adjustable mattress for two!).
My husband worked the night shift for years. Therefore, when he was working, I was sleeping and vice versa. When I found out he was starting a job with “normal hours,” I was ecstatic. Finally – we would share a bed as man and wife!
I found myself daydreaming about the things I missed out on being on opposite schedules – cuddling, waking up next to him, having him there if I woke up from a bad dream, and most of all, feeling safe. To my surprise, things did not go as planned.
Within a few short weeks, restful sleep was a thing of the past. He snored. My body heat made him too hot. He preferred white noise, I preferred silence. He tossed and turned while I remained motionless. Even his bouts of heavy breathing were enough to drive me insane.
Sometime around 1 or 2 in the morning, one of us was in the spare bedroom. At first we thought this was weird, but ultimately decided that if sleeping separately meant adequate sleep, then it was our only choice. But here’s the thing – neither of us wanted to sleep a part. So, with a little help from Sleep Number®, here are a few tips that helped us both sleep soundly through the night…together.
We got a smart, adjustable bed (a big one, too!).
As it turns out, size does matter. We were sleeping in a queen size bed when our issues began and I remember thinking to myself, “Will upgrading to a king really make a difference?” It did. Having that extra 16 inches is practically like having the whole bed to myself! (Okay, maybe not that awesome, but pretty close). Being able to turn over without rolling into the other person meant uninterrupted slumber for both of us. When the time came to pull the trigger and purchase something, we weren’t going to get just any mattress – we wanted something quality.
Not all mattresses are created equal – and we all prefer different levels of firmness. If you prefer a soft mattress while your partner enjoys a firm mattress, one of you will likely suffer from restless sleep. With Sleep Number®, you don’t have to choose! With the Sleep Number bed, you can both adjust to ideal level of firmness, comfort and support with your personalized Sleep Number setting. Viola – problem solved!
We stopped sharing blankets.
Have your own blanket! This will help establish your own separate space. It’s also nice knowing you won’t wake up cold and blanket-less in the middle of the night. You and your partner may also have different preferences when it comes to how much blanket to use. For example, I enjoy being bundled and swaddled in bed while my husband likes to sleep more freely. Alternatively, try using a bigger blanket. For example, a king size blanket on a queen size bed.
I learned to like white noise.
I’ve always preferred silence when falling asleep. No music, no television, no open windows – SILENCE. So when my husband turned on his sound machine app that first night I was appalled. “Just give it a chance,” he told me. At first I refused, and couldn’t withstand more than five minutes before retreating to another room. But when I finally committed to one night without moving, it worked. Now I can’t sleep without it! The reason is simple – white noise is a special type of sound signal used to drown out background noise.
We upped our fitness game (I did, at least)
When you work out hard, you sleep hard. If you’re having trouble falling or staying asleep (with or without someone next to you) it might be time to rethink your exercise routine. According to Sleep Number, 85 percent of people who exercise reported better sleep than those who don’t. Don’t forget to consider the timing of your workouts, too. While some people can exercise before bed and fall asleep without an issue, working out right before bedtime may spike your energy levels and body temperature, making it harder to wind down. Our rule of thumb? Three hours before bed.
Bottom line? Couples should be able to sleep together. If you or your partner are experiencing sleep disturbances, it’s time to make a change. After all, you spend one-third of your life in bed, so you might as well enjoy it! Start getting the best sleep of your life with Sleep Number. Not convinced? Watch this. Or even better, visit your local Sleep Number store to discover the Sleep Number difference!
This post was sponsored by Sleep Number. All thoughts and opinions are, as always, my own.